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The Co-dependency
Test!
Don’t we all just love a good romance movie
… all that need, all that anguish and then
the inevitable happy-ever-after ending …
if only there was a
shred of truth in it all!
Needy relationships
are sadly destined for unhappiness because
they are what we call in the world of
emotional intelligence –
co-dependent.
Co-dependency is a psychological state
whereby we depend upon outer circumstances
to prove our self worth.
For example …
“Those who need love
spend most of their life chasing love
… or those who need
money
never seem to escape financial
difficulty … or those who need
acknowledgement never receive enough
respect in their lives.
The pathway to
interdependency entails the letting go of
all outer mental and physical dependencies,
to the point that we can enter into a long
term, interdependent relationship with
everybody and everything in our lives
We identify co-dependency in a relationship
by asking the following questions:
- Do I
feel I have to be, do or have anything
to make the people in my life like me or
be happy?
- Do the
people in my life believe they must be,
do or have anything to make me happy?
- Do I, or
the people in my life put any conditions
on our relationships?
If the answer is
yes … you have some work to do my friend.
“Often the
difference between a successful man and a
failure is not one’s better abilities or ideas,
but the courage that one has to bet on his
ideas, to take a calculated risk and to act.”
Dr. Maxwell Maltz
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